Faded Connections

Hi there and thank you for reading another blog at Cowboy Computer Repair! First things first, I’d like for you (yes, you) to tell me what kind of topics you’d like me to cover, and whether or not you’ve enjoyed my writings so far. Feel free to email me at cowboycomputerrepairrichmond@gmail.com or simply shoot me a text at 604-445-1902. After all, it’s always nice to talk to someone, be it a stranger for the first time, or a friend after a long while. But what if talking to an old friend of yours is hard? It’s been so long, what should you even say to them? Let’s explore this a little as we try to relive the good old days once more.

You’re walking through a store on your way through some errands, when you notice someone standing in front of the goods you wish to purchase. You start to consider the obvious, simply waiting nearby until the are finished so you may grab an item yourself, making idle chatter or what not. But then you realize something. This person is no stranger, this is someone you knew from your time in high school. Many people would open their mouths to let out a surprised and friendly “Hey! How are you?“. Others though, the very prospect of speaking to someone they knew long ago would give them pause. If you belong to the first group, there’s no need for you to continue. If you’re a part of the second however, stay a minute as I have some advice.

It’s completely understandable if the two of you had some bad history and you don’t wish to dignify them with a friendly greeting, but what if you’re feeling guilt? Not guilt over something you had done to them, but rather something you failed to do.

Keep in touch with them.

This can bring all sorts of worries to the mind, not because you have evidence to back up the idea, but because you have no evidence of the contrary.

“Of course they hate you now, who would like someone who ghosts them entirely?”

“Remember that one time 2 years before you stopped talking? Where they called out your name and you didn’t hear them from across the room? No wonder they didn’t like you anymore, you didn’t even treat them with human decency!”

And honestly? There’s almost no way you can disparage these claims, your brain is quite effective at finding reasons for everything after all, negative or otherwise. Though you may be forgetting just one small way you can do away with these awful notions you have about yourself.

Just say hi.

After that, if you can manage to have a nice conversation with them, no matter how small, you can safely put those horrible ideas about yourself to rest. So even if it isn’t a chance encounter, just pick up your phone and dial their number. Though don’t forget to consider time zones, your nice conversation might end up a bad one from the get go if you call them while they’re trying to sleep.

Thanks for reading and I hope you learned something from my own lesson in life.